This stress

I am being overwhelmed with stress. It makes me a grump. It makes me short tempered and irritable. It makes me lazy and eat too much.
I am trying to cut back. I have declined the MOMS Club board positions for next year and am stepping down from all committees. I haven't decided about preschool preview night yet. I feel like it is my baby and I am not sure that I want to give that up just yet. I think that mostly it will depend on where we are living. Of course, that is a major stress too.
I feel like we have 3 options:
1) Buy a decent house for a large sum really far from Jay's work.
2) Buy a dump of a house closer to Jay's work and have a project.
3) Add on rooms and a fence to our house.

Now, none of these options is really a great one. Jay doesn't want a project since we have worked almost the full time we have lived in this house. Jay also doesn't want to drive an hour to work, and I don't really want him to drive an hour to work either. I don't really want to add on to our house. It doesn't solve the problems we have with traffic in our neighborhood. I am tired of the cars doing 40 in a 25 mph zone. I am tired of being woken up at 1 in the morning by kids squealing tires at the school. Ugh! I am done! This was just supposed to be a temporary house. A house that we lived in and improved, 4-5 years and we would move. That was the plan. Now it will be 7 years on the 17th. 7 years! My mom is very much with the idea of moving, but my dad thinks we should add on.
We want a house with 4+ bedrooms, 2 full bathrooms, a garage or barn, and 4+ acres. We want good schools as I am a huge believer in public schools and a quiet street.
We looked at one last night in Edgewater. Great schools, perfect neighborhood, at the end of a dead end street. The house backs up to wooded areas that won't ever be developed. Sounds perfect right? Well, the problem is that the house is small, and a dump. Jay doesn't want a project. However, the house he keeps trying to get me interested in has horrible schools, great location and neighborhood, 10+ acres, and is a project too. Though his "house" is bigger. The one he likes is about 3600 sq ft if you count the basement and the one we looked at last night is only about 2000.
I wish we could have bought Laurel Brook. It was perfectly us.
This sucks.